Chapter 3 - Affection
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The Four Loves

Chapter 3 - Affection

(Some groups may wish to break this chapter into two sections.  If so, the recommended break is between Questions 9 and 10.)

1. List some characteristics of storge or Affection.



2. How is Affection both a Need-love and a Gift-love?



3. Describe the beginning of Affection?



4. How does Affection often blend with the other loves?



5. What is the special glory of Affection and how does it open our eyes?



6. Why is Affection the broadest of the loves?



7. How is Affection sometimes similar to charity (agape or godly love)? How is Affection ambivalent?



8. Why is Affection sometimes demanded as a right? Have you experienced or observed a "reasonable expectation" of being loved turn into "a right to expect" it? What does the demand for Affection often result in?



9. How does Affection exercise courtesy within the context of familiarity? How can taking liberties abuse Affection?




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10. How is change a threat to Affection?



11. List some examples Lewis gives of Affection that has been damaged by jealousy.  If you are familiar with C. S. Lewis's novel Till We Have Faces, which relationship was damaged by this type of jealousy?



12. Describe "double jealousy."



13. What is the proper aim of Gift-love?  How did Mrs. Fidget's efforts work at cross-purposes of this goal?



14. What other examples of perverted Affection does Lewis offer?



15. Instead of neurosis, to what does Lewis attribute humanity's tendency to twist love?



16. What does Affection need to produce happiness?



17. What three factors motivated Mrs. Fidget to continue "loving" her family as she did?



18. What does Lewis mean when he writes: "if we try to live by Affection alone, Affection will ‘go bad on us'"?

 

Notes:

storge:  affection, esp. of parents and children  (Interestingly, "storge" on its own does not appear in the Greek New Testament.  It appears once compounded with philo in Romans 12:10, which the KJV translates "kindly affectioned."

Tristram Shandy:  a 9-volume experimental novel by Laurence Sterne published between 1759 and 1767.  Full title: The Life and Opinions of Tristram Shandy, Gentleman.  It is narrated by the fictional Shandy with the intention of being his life story but turns to endless digressions and stories within stories.  The focus shifts from experiences of the narrator to his family, environment and heredity.  Accounts of dealings within the family offer repeated images of human unrelatedness and disconnection.

gollywog: doll

jackdaw:  Eurasian bird related to but smaller than a crow

Mr. Pontifex: a character in The Way of All Flesh, an autobiographical novel by Samuel Butler, published posthumously in 1903.  This satire of Victorian values traces four generations of the Pontifex family, each of which perpetuates the frustration and unhappiness of its predecessor largely as a result of parental repression.

Ovid (43 BCE-17 CE): Roman poet who believed in art for pleasure's sake.  Wrote The Art of Love, advice on how to seduce a woman and Metamorphoses, a source of 250 myths.  Ovid was a major inspiration for Dante, Chaucer, Shakespeare and Milton.

Rudesby:  an uncivil, turbulent fellow

Bernard Bosanquet (1848-1923): English philosopher who taught at Oxford and St. Andrews and was part of the neo-Hegelian movement.  Wrote The Philosophical Theory of the State and The Value and Destiny of the Individual.

"I love and hate": the Roman poet is Catullus (84-54 BCE)

© 2008 by Allyson Wieland